Nothing Wrong With Being Feminine pt. II

In my first post, I gave a brief history of feminism and now I will explain how  that same feminism is slowly destroying the interaction of the sexes.

In times past, men and women did not interact how we do today.  Women in the patriarch system were under the protection of her father and when she reached marrying age she couldn’t tell her dad ‘ I wanna marry this guy cause he’s cute’ , a woman had to be courted and if an agreement was made depending on the culture a bride price was paid and then the marriage ceremony.  Courtship is the period in a couple’s relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage or establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind.  During courtship, a couple gets to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement or agreement.  A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or a public affair, or a formal agreement with family approval. Courting allowed for each party to see if this person was someone committed to all that marriage had to offer. For example will this man be able to provide for me and any children we may have? can he be a leader in the home? can she be a dutiful and submissive wife? will she raise our children with moral integrity.


Courtship was the first step in picking a potential spouse, a step that many in today’s society prefer to skip over and wonder why they relationships are always failing especially with my generation. We don’t have relationship we prefer instant gratification, we are not willing to make the sacrifices and committed it takes to be in a serious relationship or marriage and that is what is required.  If you stopped reading because of the word submissive then I ask, why does that word bother you so? take a moment and reflect on that. The word submissive has become such a negative word in our society especially when talking about interaction between the sexes. Women are told that submissive is to essentially be a doormat to a man, become his own personal doll that does whatever he says without question when that it is not true. Are there some men out there in this world that abuses their role as protector, provider and leader of their household – yes but does that mean I need to group that small few into the rest of the male populace? no it doesn’t. We all submissive in our day to day life, being submissive is to respect and obey authority. If you are a christian, you submit to God, muslims to Allah, citizens to their government, children to their parents. So why in a relationship can a woman not submit to her husbands authority when she does so else where?

In order for a relationship to work is by each party assuming a role and trying not to usurp the other positions which will only lead to dysfunction and chaos.  In American society male and female roles can and mostly is define in the most simplest terms; the man is the breadwinner and the women is the homemaker. Now we can still fulfill these roles even though we as women have careers but depending on the type of career will affect how well a woman can handle the balance of wife/motherhood with being a working women which often does not end well.  These roles as well in the eyes of feminism has be twisted and many look down on women that prefer to be the traditional model of femininity and that is at home raising her children and making sure they grow into decent human beings. During the first couple of years of childhood it is vital for a child to be with his/her mother and personal I’m not fond of placing children into daycare to be taken care of by strangers. We don’t as adults let our children walk off with strangers so why leave them in the care of one. Now I know for many daycare is the only option due to work but then that brings me to the balancing act of career and family, is it really worth it?  cause as a parent you can not get those years you missed back.

If both parties have a clear sense of what role they will bring to a relationship then courtship can begin properly. As women we must avoid listening to or follow our hearts because many times our emotions can cloud our better judgment and then we find ourselves in the same predicament that we were in before and we need to break that cycle ladies. Take responsibilities for the choices that we have made in choosing spouses because many times we fall for the bad boy because has traits of an alpha.  Also we as females need to stop engaging in sex  with the first few dates of meeting a guy. We shouldn’t let me into the cave of wonders unless he has shown and prove that his is a diamond in the rough.  For some women this may be the 90 day rule as stated in Steve Harvey’s book ‘ Act Like a Lady but Think Like A Man’  or for some women the honeymoon is when they prefer to let him in. Whatever your belief system may be, as women we need to do better because the current mindset of engaging in just casual and mindless sex is fun for awhile but it doesn’t last long and then you are out their looking for another fix and putting at risk your emotional health and physical health as well.

Feminism has created this split between how women interact with men by having women slowly fill the role that was primarily filled by men. So if the role of the man of the house  has already been filled, why even date or get married? if you’re reading and say sex, my response would be that we have sex toys which then itself also renders the need for a man pointless. So he has essentially been replace in his role by females and sex toys.  So how can we as women reverse this process so we can break this wheel of women that can’t find a good man .  We break the wheel by releasing the role of the man back to the males. We let ourselves be submissive to his authority, we let go of this attitude of I don’t need no man. As human beings we all eventually need someone, its in our nature and the more we defy nature the more problems will arise which brings me to part III of this series in which I will discuss why attraction and looking feminine is important .

got break the wheel

 

 
Sources:

Jr., Thomas Umstattd. “The 4000 Year History of Courtship by Thomas Umstattd Jr.” Thomas Umstattd Jr., 30 May 2015, http://www.thomasumstattd.com/2015/05/history-of-courtship/.

Crier, Christian. “What Does Submissive Mean? A Biblical Definition of Submission or Submissive.” Christian Crier, 19 Aug. 2015, http://www.patheos.com/blogs/christiancrier/2015/08/19/what-does-submissive-mean-a-biblical-definition-of-submission-or-submissive/.

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Nothing Wrong With Being Feminine pt. I

First off let me state that I am grateful to the feminist movement in the progress that they  have made in terms of women’s rights. I do not have to marry a man for financial security, my voice as a woman can be heard and I am allowed to go to school and be more than just a housewife. However, while I do love the achievements this movement has brought me, I am also saddened by the negative impact is has brought upon me as a female. Mankind since our creation has been under a patriarchy, a social system in which males hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property. In the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children. Some patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage. Historically, patriarchy has manifested itself in the social, legal, political, religious and economic organization of a range of different cultures. We as human beings have done pretty okay under this particular social system but there were some that have and are currently fighting this system which has existed for ages now.

American wartime propaganda poster produced in 1943 for Westinghouse Electric as an inspirational image to boost worker morale.

Feminism can be found in history with French writer Christine de Pizan the author of ‘The Book of the City of Ladies’ is considered the first woman to denounce misogyny and the relation of the sexes. There also many other early feminist writers in the 16th and 17th century. During the 18th century or the Age of Enlightenment, many writers were defending the rights of women such as Jeremy Bentham and Mary Wollstonecraft. Bentham strongly condemned many countries practiced to deny women’s rights due to allegedly inferior minds and opposed the sexual moral standards between men and women. Now as we roll into the 19th century, the ‘feminine ideal’ also called ‘The Cult of Domesticity’ was part of the widespread acceptance of the Victorian image of the woman’s’ proper role and created these separate spheres for men and women, where men occupied the public sphere and women the private one. It was published into books such as Mrs. Beeton’s Book of Household Management and Sarah Stickney Ellis books. The interrelated barriers to education and employment formed the backbone of the 19th century feminist reform efforts. Campaigns also gave women opportunities to test their political skills, one of their many successes include the campaign for the Married Women’s Property Act which was passed in 1882 and the Contagious Diseases Act of 1864, 1866 and 1869.

1st wave feminism

 As we go from the 19th to 20th century we see that feminism can be divided into waves, the first wave was women’s suffrage, female education rights, better working conditions and the abolition of gender double standards. Second wave feminism brings us to the early 1960s through the late 1980’s. The second wave dealt with more cultural equality issues and discrimination. The Feminine Mystique which was published in 1963 become the voice of many women who felt that being discontent with being stuck into homemaking positions once they graduated from college. Susan Brownmiller 1975 Against Our Will introduced to the public an agenda against male violence especially concerning sexual male violence while Susan Griffin was the feminist to write on pornography ; these approaches has evolved to transform the research and perspective on rape into a social problem rather than just an individual one.

2nd wave feminism

This brings us to third wave feminism which began in the 1990’s, the decade I was born into. During this ear of feminism there is a focus more on rights for women of color which wasn’t acknowledge as much during the first two waves. Reproductive rights and global feminism were also big topics discussed during this era which then leads us to the fourth wave which began in 2008 to present day. Now within this wave social media plays a huge part and allows for topics such as reproductive justice, sex work acceptance, transgenderism, body shaming and much more. 

3rd wave feminism

4th wave feminism

Now if you have gotten this far, you are probably wondering where I am going with this. I was born in 1991 and the era of feminism that I grew up in has affected me in a way which is causing some slight problems in my social life. As an adult feminism seems to have strayed from its original purpose and is slowly evolving into a misandry movement. As a young I do want a husband and children which there is nothing wrong with wanting those things but I feel as a female wanting those things is supposed to come second to other things like a career. Also there is nothing wrong with wanting a career but as female it is truly impossible for us to have it all.

What The Genders Want

I often find myself on social media reading post mostly by women that often complain about their relationships and why they can’t seem to find a man to settle down with. Majority of the time the female does not see anything she could have done wrong in the relationship and majority of the blame seems to be place on the male which is highly unfair. As women we need to realize that as much as feminism has helped us in many ways it has also created chaos in our relationships with the male gender. This post will continued in pt. II
Bibliography:
“Feminist Movement.” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 28 Aug. 2017, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminist_movement.

“The 1960s-70s American Feminist Movement: Breaking Down Barriers for Women.” Tavaana, tavaana.org/en/content/1960s-70s-american-feminist-movement-breaking-down-barriers-women


Game of Thrones Season 7 Episode 5 Reaction

Game of Thrones Season 7 Episode ‘Eastwatch’ Reaction video

Daenarys & Jon Snow

Game of Thrones Season 7 Episode 4 Reaction 

So today I watched the fourth episode ‘Spoils of War’ and below is my reaction video.

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Survival Horror: Not My Style

I have been playing video games since I was a little girl. My first game was Mortal Kombat II and I oftened got my butt whip by my uncle whose favorite character was Lui Kang. I still play video games to this day, however their is just one genre I can’t seem to get over: Survival Horror.

Survival Horror

I tend to suck at sucks that involves guns but I am surprised that I am doing so well with the Last of Us and the Tomb Raider reboot. I normally watch video game walkthroughs on youtube to determime if a game is worth the money and if the story is good and the gameplay, I will go and purchase it. So I watch youtuber TheRadBrad and I have watched him play several survival horro games such as Outlast and Resident Evil 7 both of which has given me nightmares because I watch them late at night. There is one game I did purchase because I loved the story and i love the movie franchise, Alien Isolation.

(From top left to right) Outlast, Outlast Whistleblower, Outlast II, Resident Evil 7

In Alien Isolation you play as Ripley who is searching for her mother Ellen Ripley from the first Alien film and like the first film, you are dealing with one xenomorph. Now I love the suspense of the game and there is even an option to use your voice and motions to make the game more intense (I turned those off). In game you board the Sevestapool which is dead quiet except for three sets of enemies, people, androids and of course the alien itself. 

Xenomorph

Now when I started the game, I was excited but when I boarded Sevestapool I got nervous and when I got to the part where you first encounter the alien, I died. I was trying to be stealthy and go the opposite direction but my family came into the room and was like ‘oh its gonna get you’ which freaked me out and then ingame I hear the alien noises and panick and  it heads straight for me and dead. So I played it again and got passed and found the tracker which is useful but one must becareful with it because the noise can attract the creature.

So now I’m at the part where you have to get to communications and I got in the transit which takes you back to your first encounter, I stayed in the transit, heard a noise and was like fucked this shit and went back. So its at this point that I really want to finish the game but I don’t like the fact that I can’t fight back my best option is to basically hide. Now I know farther in the game you can get a flamethrower but apparently the more you use it the less it works against the xeno 😑.  So maybe I will gets some courage and actually finish the game and hopefully it gets a sequel during to how it ends. 

Game of Throne Season 7…So Far

Game of Thrones is currently airing it’s seventh season on HBO and instead of it’s usual ten, this season will only have seven episodes. As of now 3 episodes have aired and for me , the war that was hinted at the end of season 6 with Cersei using wildfire to blow up the Sept and Daenerys along with her dragons,Dothraki and unsullied sailing to Westeros the first three episodes seem to be lacking.

Episode one is tilted ‘Dragonstone‘ and in this episode everyone is picking up from the previous battles. Jon Snow is rallying the north after the Battle of the Bastards and proclaimed the ‘King in the North’. He needs to prepare for the White Walkers who are on their way to the wall. However his authority is challenged by Sansa who has Littlefinger in her ear and it’s clear that the current threat at Winterfell is Lord Baelish. Arya having killed Walder Frey last season using the skills she learned from the House of Black and White to kill all those who murder her family during the infamous Red Wedding.

Meanwhile at King’s Landing, Cersei now queen of the Seven Kingdoms is needs to develop a battle plan to destroy her enemies in which she asks her twin brother Jaime for advice. She has enemies coming from all sides ( Starks, Targaryen, Drone, Greyjoy, Tyrell). Jaime tells his sister that their soldiers can not go north due to lack of resources and since winter has come their men won’t survive the cold. At Oldtown, Sam arrives to study to become a master and hopefully find some useful information to help his friend Jon in the upcoming battle against the nightwalkers. Toward the end of the episode, we see Daenerys find reach the home of Dragonstone, her birthplace and once inside she begins to construct her battle strategy.

In episode two tilted ‘Stormborn‘  we start off in Dragonstone where Tyrion advises Daenerys in that she needs allies and the best ones are those who also oppose Cersei.  Varys is confronted by Daenerys about his switching allegiances and he tells her that he serves the people and does not give blind loyalty to incompetent rulers. Daenerys then makes him swear to tell her when she is wrong and that if he ever betrays her, she will burn him alive.   Daenerys is then visited by Melisandre, the Red Priestess and informs of her the prophecy about the Prince that was promised and of Jon Snow who Tyrion vouches for. Daenerys then tells her hand to send for him so that he may bend the knee.  In the chamber of the painted table,  Yara Greyjoy and Ellaria Sand advocate for an immediate attack on King’s Landing to which Tyrion disagree. He suggest using both Tyrell and Dornish forces to lay siege to King’s Landing will the Unsullied will attack Casterly Rock.  Meanwhile the Greyjoy fleet will escort Ellaria to rally the Dornish and then ferry to the coast of King’s Landing allowing the siege to commence early. Daenerys then dismisses everyone except for Lady Olenna and reminds the new queen that the lords of Westeros are sheep yet Daenerys is a dragon and if she is to rule, she needs to be a dragon.  Then we go back to Winterfell, where Jon tells the nobles of the north about the dragon glass and that the mother of dragons wants to meet with him. He decides to go much to the dismay of his men and leaves Sansa in charge while he is away. At Oldtown, Jorah who last we seen him was inflicted with greyscale and he has gotten worse. Sam decides to help cure him of his ailment. 

Finally toward the end of the episode we get our first real battle, on their way to Dorne, Yara and her fleet is attack by her uncle Euron. Two of the sandsnakes are killed leaving Ellaria and Tyrene as captives. Euron captures his niece to which Theon jumps overboard instead of saving his sister. 

Episode three is called ‘The Queen’s Justice’ and we finally get some more action going. So In Winterfell, Sansa is doing pretty good however Littlefinger like a snake is seeping his way into her ears. Sam cures Jorah of the greyscale who then decides to head back to Daenaerys. Jon Snow meets Daenarys and refuses to ‘bend the knee’. The two go back and forth but come to some sort of understanding. The Unsullied attack Casterly Rock the home of the Lannister, however Greyworm realizes that the take over was too wasy and sees the ships he and his men arrived on being burned down. 

Meanwhile in Highgarden, Jaime Lannister along with the Lannister army marches and invades the home of the Tyrells for their resources. Jaime Lannister speaks with Lady Olenna who realizes that this is the end of her house. Jaime gives her a poison so that her death would be quick and painless and it is in that moment she confess to killing Joffery. Lastly, Euron having captured Yara, Ellaria and her daughter Tyrene brings them back to Kings Landing where Queen Cersi locks Ellaria and her  daughter in a cell leavingnYara to her uncle. Cersi wants to know why  Ellaria kill Mycella and decides to even the score. She kiss Tyrene with the same poison that killed her daughter and tells Ellaria that she will watch her daughter die and then she will watch her corspe rot. 
Game of Thrones season 7 has been slightly slow. We are shown very little of the war between Cesri and Daenarys for the throne and the white walkers have yet to arrive. There is only four episodes left and so far Daenaerys is losing this war and hopefully we will the Mother of Dragons turn her luck around. I am looking forward to Jon Snow learning of his true parentage and hoping that Cersi gets her just desserts. 

Top 10 Jokers

The clown prince of crime has been entertain fans for years and with latest joker portrayed by Jared Leto, I decided to create a list of my favorite portrayals of the Joker. Check out the video below and comment on who is your favorite Joker and why.