Nothing Wrong With Being Feminine pt. I

First off let me state that I am grateful to the feminist movement in the progress that they  have made in terms of women’s rights. I do not have to marry a man for financial security, my voice as a woman can be heard and I am allowed to go to school and be more than just a housewife. However, while I do love the achievements this movement has brought me, I am also saddened by the negative impact is has brought upon me as a female. Mankind since our creation has been under a patriarchy, a social system in which males hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property. In the domain of the family, fathers or father-figures hold authority over women and children. Some patriarchal societies are also patrilineal, meaning that property and title are inherited by the male lineage. Historically, patriarchy has manifested itself in the social, legal, political, religious and economic organization of a range of different cultures. We as human beings have done pretty okay under this particular social system but there were some that have and are currently fighting this system which has existed for ages now.

American wartime propaganda poster produced in 1943 for Westinghouse Electric as an inspirational image to boost worker morale.

Feminism can be found in history with French writer Christine de Pizan the author of ‘The Book of the City of Ladies’ is considered the first woman to denounce misogyny and the relation of the sexes. There also many other early feminist writers in the 16th and 17th century. During the 18th century or the Age of Enlightenment, many writers were defending the rights of women such as Jeremy Bentham and Mary Wollstonecraft. Bentham strongly condemned many countries practiced to deny women’s rights due to allegedly inferior minds and opposed the sexual moral standards between men and women. Now as we roll into the 19th century, the ‘feminine ideal’ also called ‘The Cult of Domesticity’ was part of the widespread acceptance of the Victorian image of the woman’s’ proper role and created these separate spheres for men and women, where men occupied the public sphere and women the private one. It was published into books such as Mrs. Beeton’s Book of Household Management and Sarah Stickney Ellis books. The interrelated barriers to education and employment formed the backbone of the 19th century feminist reform efforts. Campaigns also gave women opportunities to test their political skills, one of their many successes include the campaign for the Married Women’s Property Act which was passed in 1882 and the Contagious Diseases Act of 1864, 1866 and 1869.

1st wave feminism

 As we go from the 19th to 20th century we see that feminism can be divided into waves, the first wave was women’s suffrage, female education rights, better working conditions and the abolition of gender double standards. Second wave feminism brings us to the early 1960s through the late 1980’s. The second wave dealt with more cultural equality issues and discrimination. The Feminine Mystique which was published in 1963 become the voice of many women who felt that being discontent with being stuck into homemaking positions once they graduated from college. Susan Brownmiller 1975 Against Our Will introduced to the public an agenda against male violence especially concerning sexual male violence while Susan Griffin was the feminist to write on pornography ; these approaches has evolved to transform the research and perspective on rape into a social problem rather than just an individual one.

2nd wave feminism

This brings us to third wave feminism which began in the 1990’s, the decade I was born into. During this ear of feminism there is a focus more on rights for women of color which wasn’t acknowledge as much during the first two waves. Reproductive rights and global feminism were also big topics discussed during this era which then leads us to the fourth wave which began in 2008 to present day. Now within this wave social media plays a huge part and allows for topics such as reproductive justice, sex work acceptance, transgenderism, body shaming and much more. 

3rd wave feminism

4th wave feminism

Now if you have gotten this far, you are probably wondering where I am going with this. I was born in 1991 and the era of feminism that I grew up in has affected me in a way which is causing some slight problems in my social life. As an adult feminism seems to have strayed from its original purpose and is slowly evolving into a misandry movement. As a young I do want a husband and children which there is nothing wrong with wanting those things but I feel as a female wanting those things is supposed to come second to other things like a career. Also there is nothing wrong with wanting a career but as female it is truly impossible for us to have it all.

What The Genders Want

I often find myself on social media reading post mostly by women that often complain about their relationships and why they can’t seem to find a man to settle down with. Majority of the time the female does not see anything she could have done wrong in the relationship and majority of the blame seems to be place on the male which is highly unfair. As women we need to realize that as much as feminism has helped us in many ways it has also created chaos in our relationships with the male gender. This post will continued in pt. II
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“The 1960s-70s American Feminist Movement: Breaking Down Barriers for Women.” Tavaana,


Feminism Strikes Again

It’s at this point in my life, where I don’t even want to call myself a feminist because of the recent behaviors of the 3rd wave feminist. I was just on facebook and say this topic trending about Disney Princess being bad for young girls. Now I understand why many parents and adults have an issue with the Disney Princess franchise however, it is just a fad that many will grow out if. As a child, I had Mulan and Pocahontas dolls and played with them often. Sometimes I would pretend to be Ariel during bathtime or Belle when reading a book and dreaming about far off places – its clear that I grew out of my princess phase but this article really ticked me off.


13 Disney Princesses

The main reason for that this feminist is angry with the Disney princess franchise because it stereotypes females into stereotypical gender roles. No offense but if this woman actually watched each and every single Disney princess film she would understand that 1. that was the time frame  & 2. many of the princesses are actually feminist during a time where the idea of womens rights and such didn’t even exist. I will explain each and every single one which I hope will give my readers an understanding.

Snow White is a German princess, she was born royal but her situation becomes dire to to her evil stepmother being jealous of her beauty and so she makes Snow White a chamber maid. Snow didn’twake up one day and say ‘ you know what, I want to be a maid’. Snow because of of innocent nature is tricked by the queen,takes a bite out of a poison apple and its nap time for the princess. The prince just happens to be wandering through the woods, sees the princess, gives a kiss and bam happily ever after.

Cinderella is a French princess and was a maid due to her evil stepmother ( its clear women have an issue with beauty). Cinderella despite being treated so unfairly still had faith and hope and literally all she wanted was a night off. So the fairy godmother grants her her wish and when she arrives she just so happens to bump into the prince. Last time I check when people go out sometimes they meet someone and flirt. Clock strikes 12 its back to rags and eventually the prince finds her because she had some small feet and bam happily ever after.

Aurora is sleeping beauty another French princess that takes place during medieval times. Aurora is the subject of Maleficents cruelty all because the king and queen didn’t invited her to a party. So when Aurora becomes 16 she meets her betrothed (even though she doesn’t’t know it) falls for him and eventually pricks her finger and takes a nice long nap. The prince then slays Malifecent who uses all the powers of hell and turns into a dragon. The prince kisses Aurora and bam happily ever after.

Ariel is the Danish princess who lives under the sea though many of her fishy subjects are from the Caribbean. Ariel dreams of being human, not finding a man but a human because of her curiously at the world above. Daddy has 7 daughters but Ariel apparently is the only who takes priority. Ariel meeting Prince Eric was really just an add bonus to her desire to be human. Ursula using the mermaid desires against her, takes her voice and gives her 3 days for a kiss. All chaos eventually breaks loose and Eric ends up slaying the giant octopus turning her to sushi. Triton realizing that his youngest cant bot be a kid forever, turns her human and bam Ariel and Eric get married, have sex and hello Melody.

Belle is another French princess who commits a selfish act to save her father. The beast clearly has some anger issues ( i mean who wouldn’t’t if you were turned into some sort of wolf,bear thing) Belle over the course that she stays within the castle starts to see the goodness that is within him and the beast let’s someone in. However Gaston wants Belle even though he has 3 blonde thots but Belle is the good girl though her his not find of a woman reading because soon she gets ideas and thinking. Gaston stabs the beast which eventually leads to him falling to his death and Belle confuses her love then bam the beast is now cute again and they all live happily ever after.

Jasmine is the Arabic princess who basically doesn’t’t want her life especially marriage decided for her. She falls for the street rat Aladdin who learned to just be himself and he marries princess  Jasmine ( though technically Aladdin is a prince since his father is the King of Thieves)

Pocahontas is based on a real life Native American who upon meeting John Smith was actually 12. Pocahontas teaches John Smith about nature and that both natives and English man are the same despite skin color.

Mulan is a Chinese warrior that in order to save her father from getting himself killed in battle takes his place and saves China. Shang was just a nice little bonus

Tiana is a young hardworking black woman in 1920’s New Orleans. Her parents take her to basically work hard for the things you want. Naveen a princes ends up getting Tiana in a pickle with some voodoo madness and eventually learns to be a hard worker while Tiana learns from him that sometimes, you gotta relax. They eventually getting hitched and open up that beautiful restaurant and live happily ever after.

Rapunzel another German princess is kidnap as a child for her magical blonde hair by a witch who doesn’t want to grow old. Flynn is a thief who just happens upon Rapunzel and helps learn about the outside world and shows her that its not so scary. The thief falls for Rapunzel innocence and she learns that she was abducted, her hair gets cut, the witch dies then she is reunited with her parents and bam happily ever after with Flynn ( she actually proposes to him)

Merida is a Scottish princess who is similar to that of princess Jasmine, she wants to make her own descions about her life especially marriage. Anger with her mom, she turns the queen into a bear and the spell breaks when both the queen and princess put their pride aside .

Anna and Elsa are Norwegian and they are sisters who due to one having these really cool ice powers and because of parental fear, have been isolated from basically everyone. The fear of this powers has cause Elsa who becomes queen to start the next ice age in which she finds this new inpowerment in her powers and herself.  Anna who leaves her kingdom in charge to a guy she wants to marry and barely know falls for a guy who has a reindeer for a friend. Elsa ends up freezing her sister but their strong sisterly bond breaks it and no one is scared of the ice queen anymore.

Moana will be the latest Disney’s princess in the franchise representing the pacific islands.  This feminist reason for disliking the Disney princess franchise is because it feminizes them.


Disney Princess ft. Moana

What drives me crazy is when you get a princess who’s not gender stereotyped, like Merida from Brave. I took my daughter to see it, and afterward we had a great coversation about how strong, brave and independent Merida was in the movie. And then in the marketing, Disney slims her down, sexualizes her, takes away her bow and arrow, gives her makeup—feminizes her. So then we’re at the supermarket and see this ‘new Merida’ on fruit snacks and soup cans, and I point it out to my daughter and we have a conversation about the difference. And now when we’re at the store, she’ll see the soup can herself and say, ‘That’s not the real Merida and I’m not buying it.’

This woman has some issues, there is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to be a stay at home wife or girly.  I did not start wearing makeup till I was in my twenties because I enjoyed being a kid. I play with both dolls and toys that were considered for boys – heck video games are primarily male with the video games and especially its females characters being drawn to attract males.  No matter how many times I read about feminist versus the patriarchy whether its written by feminist or men in the manosphere – you can not change your biological instincts. Men are naturally attract to pretty women and woman look for a good provider and protector in a male; nothing on Earth will ever change that fact no matter how hard you try. So leave the young girls alone and just let them be kids.

Link to article
Disney Princess Encourage Gender Stereotypes